relationships come in many forms, partners, parents/kids,

friends, boss/employee, siblings etc....

One of my most influential teachers when it comes to couples counselling has been Dr. Kappas from HMI in California. He founded a series of teaching on different personality types and the wisdom that unless we understand who we are and who our partner is, we might have all the love in the world do give and still fail at the relationship. Here is the core of his foundation:
We are all different personality types - either highly Physical suggestible or highly Emotional Suggestible or of course a mixture along that line. Depending what our percentage of this personality type is, we need to be talked differently (direct suggestion might be the most important for one and the most off-putting for the other.

These personality types are who we are at the core, there is no good or bad, that's just how we function, to say to the partner you need to change is futile, but we can learn to soften the responses by understanding firstly ourselves and then our partners.

Suggestibility (Emotional / Physical / Intellectual)

Emotional Suggestibility: A suggestible behaviour characterized by a high degree over-thinking, multitasking, hiding ones body through emotions, not very social (likes one on one conversations) shy, over-thinks comments, takes everything personally. Thus, the Emotional person learns more by inference than by direct, literal conversation. For example to get them to have a coffee, it is easier to start describing the wonderful aroma and taste a fresh coffee would have than to say - lets have a coffee. Or to give her a compliment saying you look beautiful today will only make her think if she was not beautiful yesterday...Emotionals need a lot of space - give them the space they need and they will come back to you full caring and appreciation.

Physical Suggestibility: A suggestible behaviour characterized by a high degree of responsiveness to literal suggestions affecting the body, and restriction of emotional responses; this type of personality is very outgoing, social and usually carries the party. They don't seem to be very sensitive to others peoples feelings - they hide their feelings by being more comfortable with their body. don't bore them to death by describing coffee and the restaurant, just say "lets have coffee now" (the now is important otherwise they will say yes but mean yes sure sometime in the future...)..Physicals need to know they are the one and only love so telling them at least once a day how beautiful they are, or that you love him/her will last a long time.

Intellectual Suggestibility: The type of personality  in which a subject fears being controlled by the the other person and is constantly trying to analyze, reject, or rationalize everything that is being said. So the more you are prepared to make your case the better the understanding will be.

HOW CAN I (WE) LEARN THIS EASY KNOWLEDGE AND GIVE OUR RELATIONSHIP THE BEST GIFT WE COULD EVER THINK OF:

I have put a 3 session program together to teach you what you need to have a successful relationship in any part of your life..

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